The feeling of needing to Pass is a result of conditioned thinking that we adopt unwittingly and unconsciously through what we refer to as social pressure and the ‘norm’. But those concepts and ways of looking at the world, are simply the beliefs of others, who do not have to deal with the displacement that we need to manage and resolve, just to have a basic simple and happy life. Continue reading The Seeds of ‘Passing’
Did that make you grit your teeth? Make you laugh? Or maybe smile? When I wrote this article, I was totally unaware of the imminent release of the excellent documentary Disclosure, directed by Sam Feder and produced by Laverne Cox … Continue reading It’s good to be different
Saturday morning and I was feeling in a slightly better mood. After lunch I put on some relaxing piano music and lit some incense sticks, partly to clear the air from the aromas of my cooking, but I like the vibe too. A couple of hours passed with more incense sticks, accompanied by the dulcet tones of relaxed riffs of relaxing piano tunes. I was in a very calm and chilled mood when the doorbell rang; welcoming in my friend, she commented on the music, incense, and my super relaxed demeaner. Continue reading 180 degrees of change
She believed our meeting was 3.30 that day, whereas I believed it was 11am, hence my arrival! There was no way I was returning home having only viewed one house and quickly agreed to meet later. From that point onward my life changed in a series of coincidences, something that I could never have engineered if I had tried. A moment when the word synchronicity came into my mind, as events began to happen in a way that I had not experienced, almost appearing to be out of my hands or control. Continue reading Destroy before you can create
Little did I know just how my life would transpire to evolve in the way that it has over the past few years! I could never have foreseen or predicted the outcome, which is still unfolding and presenting new horizons, ideas and concepts to me. Taking me forward on several plateaus simultaneously on spiritual and physical depths of discovery. Continue reading More than I ever expected
The term Two-Spirit is a fairly modern creation from 1990, describing a person who embodies their own spirit as male or female, plus a spirit of the opposite sex; within a society that accepted gender fluidity with individuals being valued more for their contribution to the community. It can also be described as creating four genders — male, female, male two-spirit and female two-spirit; living freely, able to choose how they dressed and lived their lives. The earliest form of LBGT perhaps?
I had already found that my thinking had gone down a similar path of ‘Polish’, not worrying about consequences and pushing for better things, hoping for a positive outcome; in some instances, putting my life on the line to get there. In my experience, once you have adopted that concept, it can be extremely liberating in its effect on how you make choices and move in directions that you would not have previously chosen, breaking out of your comfort zone. Continue reading Be a bit more Polish
It wasn’t a difficult thing for me to do once I had had made up my mind, this was something that I needed to do, there really was no other option that I could see that was a serious alternative. … Continue reading Did my world shrink?
Life, a series of events and obstacles from the moment that we are conceived until the day we die Naturally, we are aware of the stages we go through from birth to old age, with fuzzy invisible divides that sit … Continue reading Jump up and touch the sky
There have been moments in my life that I’ve never really discussed with anyone before, small things that have accumulated in my memory over the years and are continually added to, a few recent ones are here. I remain unclear … Continue reading Being open and without fear, a Transgender life